Now maybe I’m just a jaded pessimist, but I swear: almost every guy who’s given me “butterflies” in my stomach was bad news.
Looking back, I’m pretty convinced that the gut feeling I thought was “the butterflies” has been my intuition telling me to abandon ship.
So what exactly are “the butterflies”?
Some people describe them as a fluttering in your stomach, a burning passion, magic, fireworks, or electricity when you’re around that “special” person.
According to Wikipedia, “Butterflies in the stomach is the physical sensation in humans of a “fluttery” feeling in the stomach, caused by a reduction of blood flow to the organ. This is as a result of the release of adrenaline in the fight-or-flight response, which causes increased heart rate and blood pressure, consequently sending more blood to the muscles.”
…Yeah, I know. I’m currently having the same reaction.
So basically what we’ve thought was an indicator of a romantic passion is just a low-key anxiety attack? I mean I’m a pessimist and all but deep down I’m a romantic who wanted to believe that it was “magic”; not the signs of onsetting IBS.
But I guess when you put it into perspective it makes sense. Whether you’re nervous because you REALLY want things to go well with someone or you’re anxious because you KNOW they’re completely wrong for you; your body is simply having a physical response to a stressor. Being sexually infatuated with someone can also trigger the same adrenaline rush which explains the spike in our heart rate and ultimately that “fluttery” sensation.
To be honest, learning where butterflies really come from did ruin my life a little—but I’m happy I know the real t. While I don’t think that having this feeling is always a bad omen, I do think we should try to understand where our anxiety is coming from. I also don’t think we should write-off any romance that doesn’t give us this adrenaline rush. Feeling relaxed and not jittery while with your crush is actually a really good sign. Ultimately, insatiable passion and constant excitement isn’t always sustainable and can wear off. Having a foundation outside of that infatuation is essential to post-honeymoon success.