Why do we fall so hard for men who aren’t about sh*t?
Now when I say “men who aren’t about shit”, I’m not simply referring to annual incomes or a lack of vocational milestones. There are also men who look amazing on paper (and without clothes on) but don’t have an ounce of emotional intelligence—aka aren’t about shit. So why do we fall for these men, also known as f**k boys? Do they emit pheromones that make them irresistible despite the OBVIOUS fact that we have no future with them? Or are we just too stupid/dickmatized to walk away?
“A Fuckboy is the type of guy who does shit that generally pisses the population of the earth off all the time. He will also lead girls [people] on just for hookups, says hes really into you but doesn’t want to deal with all the “relationship bullshit” just to fuck you. He thinks about himself and only himself all the time but pretends to be really nice…”-Young snaps
Either way, entertaining these men is draining and rarely worth the effort.
While most people have a few f**k boys in their dating browser history, what does it mean when these men seem to constantly flock to you?? I mean, where do you turn when nearly every guy in your phone seems to be a carbon copy of the last f**k boy??
Well if you’re tired of being a f**k boy magnet; Here are a few ways to break the cycle before the next one shows up (because I’m sure he will):
1. Stop ignoring the obvious signs that he’s a F**k Boy
Nine times out of ten you can tell whether or not a guy has f**k boy tendencies within the first few days, or even minutes of knowing him. If you find yourself constantly making excuses for his behavior, ignoring his sketchy past, and/or calling him “the exception to the rule”; you’re probably in denial about his f**k boyishness. I can honestly say that in my experience, every guy who has proven to be a f**k boy gave me warning signs (early on) that I chose to ignore, despite my gut feelings.
2. Stop Settling For Less Than You Deserve
I’m sure that before Mr. F**k boy showed up you had a clear concept of what you wanted from a man but altered it due to his shortcomings. If you want love, exclusivity, or romance, don’t stop until you find someone who can make it happen for you. Never downsize your romantic dreams just because some f**k boy isn’t “ready” to step up to the plate.
3. Being Cute Doesn’t Make Him Any Less of a F**k Boy
Beautiful people can be full of shit too. Don’t let his pretty face distract you from the fact that he was sent to you by Satan in an UberX. The devil is busy so don’t let him into your home or in between your legs.
4. Know When To Walk Away
When your gut is telling you to run; TRUST IT. We’ve all experienced that moment when our intuition tells us that something just isn’t right. We also have the power to identify when a potential relationship just isn’t going anywhere. The choice to aimlessly stay with a f**k boy, waiting for a miracle, or just cut our losses and be free of the b.s. is truly up to us.
5. And Stay Away
One of the worst things you can do is to let the same f**k boy back into your life (and in most cases into your bed). You can’t move forward if you’re constantly looking in the rearview mirror. One of my friends who was stuck on f**k boy broke her cycle by changing his contact name in her phone to, “He Didn’t Choose You”. Yeah I know…ouch! No matter how drunk or lonely I get, there’s no way in hell I would reply to a text from “He Didn’t Choose You”. Sometimes little reminders like that can help you keep things in perspective when dealing with repeat offenders.
6. If all else fails, open your bible to the book of Trina
At the end of the day, we can only blame ourselves for our f**k boy problems.
Only we can break this cycle. Knowing that we’re worth more than what they have to offer is a great start to getting past this phase in our lives. It’ll take a lot of willpower, patience, and masturbation but ultimately evading the sticky traps of f**k boys will be worth the pay off.