The “Unfriendly black hotties” clique was first identified during the tribal navigation of the high school cafeteria in the cult classic, Mean Girls. If you’ve lived your life under a rock and haven’t seen Mean Girls, stop what you’re doing, apologize to yourself and then watch this clip.
Anyone who’s spent time in the LGBT nightlife scene has undoubtedly noticed a similar racial/cultural division.
Who are the “unfriendly black hotties” of the gay bar? They’re typically a well dressed, meticulously groomed group of black men who appear to be bored with the musical selection, and are usually found laughing at inside jokes amongst one another.
Initially I wasn’t sure if I was a part of this group until I took this Buzzfeed quiz.
So now, as a Buzzfeed confirmed member, I’d like to extend an olive branch and provide some intel to curious outsiders…
HERE ARE A FEW WORDS OF ADVICE FOR THE GUYS WHO ARE AFRAID TO APPROACH US, AND THE OTHERS WHO ARE DOING IT ALL WRONG:
3. We speak english too. Therefore there’s no need for special lingo or usage of slang during your opening lines. Just come as you are and be yourself.
4. “You’re so articulate” or “well spoken”, are NOT compliments either. I beg you to recall the last time you overheard a non-black person paying that compliment to another non-black person…I’ll wait….
5. Not all black people watch The Real Housewives of Atlanta or Love & Hip-hop, so a recap of last night’s episode will get you nowhere with me. [Now Empire is a different story…]
6. While I might get tipsy enough to dance with you at some point, I have zero interest in teaching you and your friends the ‘wobble’ or the ‘nae nae’.
7. Stop making it awkward! Listen, when attempting to court someone who’s out of your cultural comfort zone, my best advice is to just be yourself. New encounters are only as awkward as you make them. No one is racially colorblind, so It’s pointless to focus on the obvious.